Developmental theorists recognise that some of this gender awareness
is nature or genetic and some of this is nurture. Nurture means what they learn
from their environment. Particularly what is termed as gender roles? This means
the role that males and females play in our society. Parents then are very influential
in developing gender identity.
Your child will be becoming curious not only about their own
bodies, but about others too. If you find your child being curious about another
Childs body, remember it is important not to overreact or be angry. Use the
opportunity to explain about bodies and sexual development. There are some great
child friendly books out there.
When your child is touching himself, even though you may feel
uncomfortable try not to tell him off. Remember your opinions and views can
be passed on to your child. Telling him off may make him feel guilty and he
will not understand that he shouldn’t do it; he just knows it feels good!
Try to explain that touching should be done in private. You
may also want to take this time to introduce the topic of sexual safety, that
is: not letting other adult’s even ones they trust to touch them inappropriately
and what to do about it.
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Please be reassured that this
is normal. At this stage of a Childs development they are learning what is called
gender awareness or identity. This means that they are recognising that there
is a difference between girls and boys.
